“Once you have children that’s who you are. There’s no way around that. That’s who I am. Your body switches off. I had no desire to date or anything.” ~ Charlize Theron~
Between balancing a hectic and busy business schedule, being inedited with tasks and travel, and running my kid to various sporting events and after-school activities, adding in a date night can seem arduous.
It’s hard enough keeping up with the snack schedule or finding my kid’s sock… or putting on GI Joe’s leg after Hulk pounds him to the ground to remembering to pick up Kids Bop 3227 when it releases…
…And NOW I am supposed to meet him for drinks? Ain’t nobody got time for that!
….So I thought.
The truth is, I knew I didn’t want to be single forever. Heck, there is still plenty of good in me that I know is destined for WIFE status. And damn sure there is MORE to me than being a baby mama! So why was I counting myself out?
There are a lot of reasons that I put out there and they probably aren’t too far from some of yours too….
“I don’t have time to go on a date because I have my son.”
“I don’t have anything to wear because I only have Mom jeans.”
“I haven’t been out in so long, I don’t even know what to say.”
“Ugh…he probably doesn’t want to really date a woman with a kid.”
No matter what the reasons… they panned out to be one thing: EXCUSES. Continue reading Playdates, Networking, & Date Nights…
You can’t look online for more than 5 minutes without seeing a meme or a photo of a couple with the infamous #relationshipgoals underneath. And rightfully so, people are aspiring to have lasting, loving, and fulfilling relationships.
I’m no exception to the #relationshipgoals either. Right now, my 2018 Vision Board and Journal feature magazine clippings and images of my desired next steps or levels for my love life PLUS my plan of action to achieve them. And for the record…
….YES, FIANCEE TOPS my list….
And why wouldn’t it?! Trust and believe….I’m claiming it! Hell, I play for keeps. Continue reading relationship goals
“And suddenly you know…it’s time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings.”
Well hello 2018! And hello to you again! I really have to stop treating you like this. It feels too much like one of my past relationships….
….On again-Off again…
…..Show up when I want some attention.
…..MY BAD. I’m Sorry.
But I have missed writing and sharing with you (and other bloggers).
Hate to say that it has been really busy… (<—again like what was said in my past relationships)… but it has been really busy. Hell, my busy-ness is one of the reasons why I stayed in the singles lane for a bit. But for real… I have been working my socks off over here in Virginia and now that I have had some time to rest my big head, I am looking forward to some magical beginnings in 2018!
So how did you usher in the new year? Were you boo’d up, boozed up, givin’ it up, or fed up?
Me…I welcomed my new year the way I started it…. alone on the couch watching Hallmark Christmas Movies. I added a box of tissues and a bottle of OJ this time around. Why…? Because I was sick and exhausted. My boyfriend…
…YES THERE IS STILL A BAE…
…was on the phone with me as we counted down the final seconds of 2017. After that I was out faster than the BC Powder I got the next morning.
But the feeling of welcoming 2018 was far more different than last year. Why? Because rolling into 2018 I have come full circle with celebrating my life as it’s happening… anew.
Continue reading trust the magic of beginnings