I’ve been a little…M.I.A.

Hey hey hey!!!!! I’m back in my unDENYably SINgle world!!! And guess what I have been doing? A LOT OF THINGS TO BE A BETTER RESOURCE TO YOU!

So….in the past two weeks life has been a whirlwind! And….I have been thinking of how I can make my blog much better for you, especially as I am reaching more and more followers and know that many will join us on this journey. With that, I am committed to blogging more, and giving you some, hopefully, rich content that you will be able to apply to your fabulously single (or dating…) life! But here is an update on what I have been up to…

Over the past two weeks, I launched my Create Your Vision (Board) Parties in the Richmond-metro and Virginia Beach areas! They were absolutely fab so a “big thanks” goes out to ALL of the participants who came out to celebrate my 2017 seminar launch and to get a better handle on their goals. I was able to connect with about 50 people at these events, and I was extremely happy to see so many different dynamics in the workshops…women and men who were in the retirement and second launch phase, couples who were considering next steps in their relationships, single mothers who were trying to re-map their family and personal goals, and men who were also exploring the single life and pursuing professional passions.

Next up….I  have a few things on my plate that I am planning and working towards offering my followers and coaching clients including a relationship enrichment seminar that will upcoming-eventsfocus on supporting my dating and newly married couples.  This seminar will be moderated by me and led with the help of my wonderfully and blissfully married couples at various stages in their marriages.  In addition, I will be facilitating other seminars that focus on co-parenting without the baby mama/baby daddy drama, and communicating better in relationships. AND….I am launching a free e-course in March that will focus on managing and maintaining a successful (and HAPPY) single life!

You can certainly join my email list to get updates on my upcoming workshops plus tips and resources that you may find helpful with parenting and dating as well! Plus, for signing up, you get two resources to help you better understand your child’s behavior and to help you maintain a successful relationship!

Now…onto the juicy things, which is why you are here, right? My dating life….. Ummm….It’s still there. My phone hasn’t been dry that’s for sure. AYYYEEEE!!! And….I’ve taken an interest in someone.

Yes….I know…. right!

I am taking things slow, and not rushing at all. We are still in the friendship stage with a WHOLE lot of attraction to each other. I will share more…maybe…when it reaches a relationship. Until then…. that’s all you get! Ha! Hey…. I have my reasons for keeping my relationship to myself, and I will actually talk about that in a future blog post (stay tuned)!

And speaking of FUTURE BLOG POSTS…. Guess what SINgluars (my new name for my fellow followers)? I AM COMMITTED to actually keeping you packed with some useful resources and STILL adding in my own twists and dating stories (and yours too so don’t forget to send them to me)! Each week, I will be blowing you up with posts to keep it real, to remain insightful, and to engage you in some discussions about the single life, dating and relationships, and even parenting and navigating relationships when children are in the mix. Here is a detailed look at what you can expect from me in the future:

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  • MANCODE Mondays: That’s right ladies… we are cracking the code, sorta! Each Monday I will offer you the man’s perspective on various topics.  Utilizing interviews, polls, and research, we will get an insight into how men really think and feel about issues, such as waiting to have sex, commitment and marriage, and so much more!
  • HUMP DAY Wednesdays: Keep your pants on….its not ALWAYS about sex! But we will be talking about SEX BABY! But…I will be exploring intimacy on more than just a physical level to help us truly reach the BIG O!
  • TALK-IT-OUT Thursdays: This is the chance to talk about relationships and the dynamics that come with them as we date. You can expect stories from me and my followers and even more about how to navigate through these challenges.
  • SINgle Saturdays: Whether you are actively seeking, dating, or happily single, I will share more about taking care of your star player….YOU! From self-care and guilty pleasures, to finding the perfect date night outfit or activity, and even some thoughts on creating your dating profile, these blogs will be all about how to put the best you forward.

I thank you so kindly  for sticking with me! Down below….let me know what you think about the upcoming schedule, and let me know if there is anything that is pressing you. Leave it in the comments or contact me directly!

 

Kisses!

unDENYably…New Year, New Me?

“A New Year’s resolution is a tradition in which a person resolves to change an undesired trait or behavior.” ~ New Year’s Resolution (Wikipedia)

The ball is getting ready to drop in a little over 24 hours, and I am happy to report that I have not seen the tired “New Year, New Me” post on any of social media platforms.  Now that it is not to say that they are not coming because somewhere, someone is going to drop that line.

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Maybe it’s the  83% asshole in me (I took a quiz on Facebook and I will share another time), but I just have a real question…

….WHAT THE HELL DOES “NEW YEAR, NEW ME,” MEAN?

I mean last year, it was NEW YEAR, NEW ME. And the year before that, it was NEW YEAR, NEW ME. You follow where I’m going?

Yet, here we are, still looking at the same you. Sure you may have changed your hair color or switched up the dreadful, saggy skinny jeans style, but you are still physically the same person.

And if we are still getting the same updates on your ever-changing relationship status or your baby mama issues then that is the same you and maybe we should totally hit the unfollow or unfriend button. Newsflash… no one cares about how many times your “baby mama” took you for a child support review, despite how many likes you receive.

Oh… my all time favorite, for which I have been guilty too, is the post for which you say “I’m going to stop posting or giving attention to social media” all while posting it as a status on…

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..…social media.

I say this because if each year you resolve to have a NEW YEAR, NEW ME, but you are still doing the same thing as you did before, you are not going to make much growth.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I see nothing wrong with making resolutions or trying to break away from the “old” you.  Again, by definition, a resolution is a resolve to change an undesired trait or behavior. So perhaps we should focus on the undesired traits or behaviors that we need to change, in order to fully develop into a BETTER version of ourselves.

So instead of seeing a changed hairdo as a new invention of ourselves, let us resolve to be happy with who we are, unconditionally.

Or instead of the degrading “baby mama” or “baby daddy” posts, let us resolve to talk to the other person whom we slept with and made a baby to talk about how WE can parent OUR child together.

Lastly, use social media to follow people who actually have some substantial information to share.  If you enjoy following celebrities and reality stars, that’s great, but please do not allow these individuals to serve as a source for your business or relationship platform (again…another discussion for another day). Instead, follow professionals that provide live discussions or webinars on savings, stocks and bonds, and business development, something that will be fruitful in your personal growth.

Now this is no shade towards anyone who has made these posts or who have planned to make this as a post in the future, but I encourage you to look at this time of year as a way to start thinking about the goals that you can align with your resolutions.  Really take the opportunity to be deliberate in identifying what you hope to accomplish in the coming year.

As a single woman…a single mother…and a professional in the counseling world, I strongly believe in the power of setting goals and making plans to reach these goals. And I am not just talking about putting words on paper or speaking pretentiously into the air. I truly encourage you to set goals that are S.M.A.R.T.:

  • Specific
  • Measurable and meaningful
  • Attainable and achievable
  • Realistic and reasonable
  • Timely and trackable

Following these steps will definitely help you to create a plan to become a BETTER you in the new year. After all, “a goal without a plan is just a wish.” (Antoine de Saint)

To help you, my friends and followers, to develop SMART goals for 2017, I highly encourage you to join me for one of my FREE vision parties next month. At this free event, I will help you to not only develop your vision for the new year, but I will also connect you with some wonderful resources to help you follow through on obtaining these goals.

And, if it is not enough to offer this event FREE, there are two chances for you to connect with me:

Richmond-metro (VA) – January 19, 2017: 6pm-7:30pm

Location: Clover Hill Library, 6701  Deer Run Dr, Midlothian, VA 23112

Hampton-Roads (VA) – January 26, 2017: 6pm-7:30pm

Location: TBD

I hope to see you there, but space is limited. So don’t be that wedding guest that shows up without an RSVP after all meals have been paid and accounted. Reserve your spot today at www.beginningsfamilyenrichment.com/store/p16/VisionParty!

Until next time, Happy New Year!